5 Steps to Personal Greatness

At the core of personal mastery is self-understanding. Transformation is about dealing with fundamental motives and causes.

Nurturing these five selfs will fuel your quest for personal mastery:

1. Self-Awareness

Knowing your strengths and weaknesses is not as easy as it sounds. To understand our personal surpluses and deficits is not an option on our journey to personal greatness. If we want to drive our performance, then we must be able to manage our emotions in ways that energize and direct that drive. If we are not aware of our moods, then they can end up controlling our behavior in counterproductive ways. Mood mastery is necessary for personal mastery.

Be self-aware instead of self-conscious.

2. Self-Affirmation

We know it’s not healthy to speak against or gossip about others. It becomes even more destructive when we use words to speak against ourselves. Self-affirmation is a matter of choosing what we focus on. If others talked to us the way we sometimes talk to ourselves, we would avoid them. It can become easy to degrade ourselves, sometimes subliminally. Instead of letting other people and circumstances decide what you will focus on, make it your choice.

Attitudes that asphyxiate include: You’re no good… lousy… incompetent… unable… ordinary… worthless. Attitudes that affirm? I am lovable… forgivable… capable… have strengths… am multi-talented… have purpose. The world can be a negative place. You must counteract toxic noise.

Be self-affirming instead of self-degrading.

3. Self-Motivation

If you are waiting to be motivated by someone else, personal mastery will elude you. Always giving your best is an inside job. Some days are better than others, but give your best every day. Anything less than that leads to a thin life and ultimately, regret.

Motivation is the underlying reason why a person does or doesn’t do something. 

Be self-motivated instead of self-absorbed.

4. Self-Love

If we are to “love our neighbor as our self,” then I will submit that your love for others cannot and will not exceed your love for yourself. As a result, it says more about the sender’s needs than the needs of the receiver. Sometimes wanting the best for others can involve pain. And wanting the best for yourself includes telling yourself the truth. And who, at times, hasn’t found that to include some pain?

Be self-loving instead of self-serving.

These four self’s will help you discover and express what you want. They lead to clear communication and help avoid drama, regret, sadness and misunderstanding. Personal greatness is not possible without them.

Source: www.success.com by By Mick Ukleja | December 2016